Monday, May 9, 2011
Mother's Day/Joys of Parenting
I was in Bass Pro one day with the whole family when we had a meltdown with one of our kids. Finally, after threatening, taking to the bathroom and swatting, bribing, you name it, we just decided to leave. Dennis had the screaming child and I was trailing behind him. As we passed the cashiers in the front of the store, I heard them saying, "I wish they would take care of that screaming kid!" I now have a new compassion for parents in public. It is tough. I do not judge a parent anymore, because everything I have judged in the past, has come about in my experience of parenting. I have to say, I am SCARED to judge. I am far from perfect and am always learning. Until you have been there, you cannot tell anyone else how to handle their child. Hunter, my oldest, was fairly easy....a swat did the job. Holden, on the other hand, would look at me after a swat, and say, "that didn't hurt"...but to make him look you in the eye as you talked about the consequence of his action, just killed him. Hayden, wow, I haven't figured out the right discipline for him. He is my challenge. He is the one who embarrasses me every time in public. He is the one who is getting me back for every judgemental thought I have ever had about parenting. Hudson, thank goodness, is a pretty easy going kid, so I can talk to him and he does pretty good....so far.
Parenting also has it's rewards. It is not ALL disciplining. It is fun to see them grow and find out what their gifting is. The difficult part of this aspect is the fine line of pushing what I see would be good for them to do and letting them explore their own options. I have learned that all I can do it provide opportunities for them, I can not make them like anything. Once they find their thing, I hope that I can encourage them to pursue it to the best of their ability.
I know that parenting is a very touchy subject because our experiences and children are all very different. But, with God's help, as well as being open for creative ideas, it can be rewarding. I have read many parenting books and am always searching for creative ideas on how to be a better parent. There is one book in particular that I have gleaned ideas from, called Creative Correction by Lisa Welchel. Also, Bringing up Boys by Dr. James Dobson. There really are so many books out there on the subject. If you have any suggestions please share!!